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Wednesday, May 19, 2010

God doesn't make mistakes...

I actually started writing this post a long time ago. It has been sorta "marinating" in my mind.

After Zach was diagnosed with CHD, I struggled with many questions. The one that plagued me the most was,

If God doesn't make mistakes, then how do you explain heart defects (or any other birth defects, for that matter)?

First, let me set the record straight. As any parent of a child with special needs will tell you, there is a whole continuum of emotions that you go through, particularly in the beginning. You experience everything from anger with God to denial to fear to complete trust in The Creator. Since God created me and my emotions, I don't think any of those feelings are wrong unless I allow them to turn me away from God indefinitely. God will use even negative emotions to draw me to Him, BUT I have to make the choice to move toward Him and not away from Him.

So, as Bill and I sat in the waiting room during Zach's first surgery, the BT Shunt, I opened my Bible and began reading. I was crying out to God to please save the life of our baby through the skilled hands of the surgeon, anesthesiologis, and nurses. I was questioning why God allowed this to happen to our little boy. I was needing confirmation of what I knew in my head to be true --- God does not make mistakes.

At the time, my mind just couldn't produce any addresses to scriptures that would settle my head and heart on this matter. Now, as I sit at my computer, I can use Bible Gateway to do a keyword search to find any number of verses about God's perfection, such as:

Deuteronomy 32:4
The Rock—His work is perfect;
all His ways are entirely just.
A faithful God, without prejudice,
He is righteous and true."

Psalm 18:30
As for God, his way is perfect;
the word of the LORD is flawless.
He is a shield for all who take refuge in him.

Matthew 5:48
Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.

Romans 12:2
Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

God is perfect. His will is perfect. His creation is perfect.
Despite turning to these truths, even now I still struggle with my son's diagnosis - Congenital Heart DEFECT.
A defect is a mishap, a flaw, a mistake. Not perfect.

In the midst of all the turmoil going on in my grieving heart as I sat in that waiting room, as helpless as my baby laying on that cold operating table, God gave me this scripture:

1 Corinthians 12: 14-20
Now the body is not made up of one part but of many. If the foot should say, "Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body," it would not for that reason cease to be part of the body. And if the ear should say, "Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body," it would not for that reason cease to be part of the body. If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? But in fact God has arranged the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. If they were all one part, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, but one body.

Now, I know that Paul is talking about spiritual gifts here and how everyone has an important role, no matter what they were gifted to do. Maybe I am interpreting this scripture out of context, which can be a dangerous thing to do. Nonetheless, I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that 1 Corinthians 12: 14-20 gave me a measure of peace that morning so long ago. God didn't make a mistake. God created Zach and his special heart just as He wanted them to be. Perfect.


  1. That was beautiful- and so true! God certainly didn't make a mistake, and He also chose us carefully as the parents of our heart kiddos, because He knew that we would be able to realize it! I'll be sending up lots of prayers for Zach and his upcoming surgery.


  2. God "marinated" this message in your mind to post at just the right time - at least for me. Thank you. I need the reminder today that God's wisdom and will and ways are PERFECT, even when we cannot understand one bit.

  3. God chose all of us to care for his special angels because He knew we would provide the best possible life for them. We would give them a chance when others would not. We would inspire hope inside them when others would discourage. We would give our life for them without question. These babies were perfectly made for us.

  4. How Awesome !! THinking of you Pam and your precious lil man ...


  5. I've lived with the same CHD's as Zach has for 28 years and I have never felt (except during those teenage years when we all struggle with self-doubt) that I was made to not be Perfect ... I believe Perfect is word humans us ... God knows His plan, His ways, and His perfects a lot better than we do ... Zach and I are perfect in God's eyes ... I am glad you wrote this post and I hope others who have CHD Children or Special Needs Children realize that God sees their children as perfect too! God Bless!!!

  6. Thank you so much for posting this. A girl I know is struggling with her faith. She is bulimic and is stuck on the idea that "I am a mistake, if there is a god then he makes them." I've emailed her these passages of scripture in the hopes that she will turn to God to handle her problems. Please, pray for her! She's truly struggling with her self image!

  7. That is powerful.. I know God to be a living God.. No connection to God is like not have power to light your home.. You have to be connected to the main source or you are in the dark..

  8. "God didn't make a mistake. God created Zach and his special heart just as He wanted them to be. Perfect."

    If his "special heart" is perfect then why does it need to be fixed?

    1 having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be.

    2 make (something) completely free from faults or defects, or as close to such a condition as possible.


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